Not So Different Afterall

Kris believes that life is a battle, our enemy is Satan, his goal is to destroy us, and our victory is in Christ alone.  Her life is marked with battles. She battled anorexia, depression, and anxiety as a young woman. In her 30s she battled laryngeal cancer...twice. Each battle brought her closer to the heart of Christ, solidified her trust in Him, and deepened her desire to share the hope found only in Him.

She shares her day to day struggles and victories on her blog, aptly named "In The Battle".


Lessons From a Bridal Shower - Part 1
Not So Different After All

Not long ago, I attended a bridal shower at our church. I hate to admit this, but I was a bit apprehensive about going. I have a close group of girlfriends that I do most everything with…okay, we do everything together…and none of them knew the bride to be (she grew up in our church but has not attended in several years)… and they weren’t going to the shower….and that meant I had to go “alone”.

Actually, apprehensive isn’t quite the right emotion…I was really quite distressed. I ALMOST called my friends and chastised them for sending me to this event alone. See, I don’t have a lot in common with the ladies that gave the shower. I mean, I know them, and they know me, but they are grandmothers and great grandmothers. I am mom of 2, ages 10 and 4. They have all the details of life ironed out while I am checking the calendar to see what day of the week it is. Their lives run smoothly and their homes are in order. My life is a whirlwind and there are days that I PRAY no one drops by my house unannounced! On the way to the shower, I racked my brain for things to talk about. Every topic that came to mind was quickly dismissed. What interest could these ladies possibly have in anything I have to talk about? By the time I got there, I was a nervous wreck.

Turns out, I had a grand time. I mean, I REALLY had a good time! With the security of my best friends taken away, I was able to REALLY enjoy the company of the ladies who hosted the shower. We had LOTS to talk about. I learned a lot at that Bridal Shower, specifically that we aren’t really all that different…every one of them remembers what it was like to be the mom of little kids…what it feels like for life to be a whirlwind…one even admitted to having to check the calendar every now and then to see what day it is.

We have a lot in common simply because we are women. We are all on this adventure called life. These ladies are just farther along in the journey than I am. They have experienced things that I have not. They have learned things that I have not. I learned a lot at that bridal shower. Things like:
· You’ll miss picking toys up in the living room (again) when the kids are gone.
· God really is in control.
· Everybody needs extra serving spoons.
· Sometimes all you can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other, and that’s okay.
· Nothing beats stainless measuring cups.
· Family and friends are more important than spotless furniture.
· Things rarely go as planned.
· Inner beauty is revealed as youth fades away.
· We all need an extra set of sheets.
· You never stop missing your mom.
· Good friends stand the test of time.
· You never stop worrying about your kids.
· We’re only here for a little while, but we live forever in the memories of the ones whose lives we touch.
· It is not easy to make perfectly pink punch
· We spend a lot of time worrying about things that don’t really matter.
· When it’s all said and done, life is a lot like a cookie sheet.

James 4: 13-15 says, Now listen, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money." Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, "If it is the Lord's will, we will live and do this or that."