White male racism towards black males will not end until THIS is corrected


In this video, Dr. Mark Goulston, white co-host on the all black Zo What Morning Show, has the revelation of why white people (especially white males) and many black women don’t and won’t trust black males.

Dr. Mark realizes that white people project onto black males the anger those white people would feel if they were demeaned, disrespected, distrusted, marginalized, etc.—the way many black males are by both white people and many black women.

Furthermore, as long as white people deny having projected this anger on them, they will never believe that black males don’t feel angry in return. And when black males aren’t showing it, white people will assume they are just covering it up. And then when the slightest bit of that anger comes out when black males are just too frustrated, white people say, “See I told you so… they are angry.”

Believing that black males must be angry causes whites to feel fearful of them. To make matters worse, in the case of white policemen who are very much about control, they have a psychological refusal to be afraid and so instead turn it into resentment, distrust, and a very short fuse that can blow and cause the tragic shootings that are occurring all too often.

Why am I writing this? And furthermore, as the lead in to the video above asks, “Why is a white guy like me co-hosting a black radio show?”

It’s a two fold answer:

  1. Mea culpa
  2. Mea redeema

I’m doing it because about 20 years ago, I discovered my own “hidden” racism and didn’t like what I saw in myself.

I had two days before heard the “Not Guilty” verdict come down at the end of the O.J. Simpson criminal trial where I was an adviser to the prosecution. If you remember, the reactions to that verdict were divided very much along racial lines. Blacks rejoiced, whites felt deeply cheated by the injustice.

I am white and although I, too, felt a deep sense of injustice, especially for Ron Goldman's and Nicole Brown's families, I had an additional reaction to the verdict and spoke to one of my good black friends about it. I realized that my feeling of things being stacked against justice was something he had probably known about.

I said to him, “I’m sick to my stomach over this verdict and felt that everything was stacked against a just verdict and realized that you must know what that’s like.”

He replied, “I’ve never known any different.”

I said, “Jeez, I’m having trouble standing this after two days, why didn’t you tell me it was so bad?”

At the point my friend looked me straight in the eye and said, “Because you didn’t want to know!”

And he was right.

That was the beginning of my realization of how marginalized blacks are, especially black males.

Entertain us with your rap? Great! Amaze us with your athletic abilities? Even better.

But expect us to respect, trust, embrace, and value you… fuggedaboutit!

Well I can’t fuggedaboutit.

Toward Solving Racism

What can be done about stopping racism from, largely, white males toward black males—be it covert as in my case or overt as may be the case in some of the shootings we are hearing about?

In my case it was recognizing an oblivious insensitivity that just did not go along with the way I want to view myself and then taking corrective actions for me, which has included co-hosting a black radio show and giving my incredibly smart, sharp, and talented co-hosts and guests the chance their talents and hard work deserve.

As for the more overt and more violent cases of racism, it will require racist white people owning instead of projecting the anger they feel toward blacks and realizing that blacks are much more afraid of whites than they are angry at them.

Dr. Mark Goulston is a #1 best selling author of seven books, former hostage negotiation trainer, speaker, trainer, coach and renowned psychiatrist. He is regarded as an internationally renowned expert in the field of empathy and listening. As a result of his rich and diverse background and experiences, Dr. Goulston increases people’s ability to get through to anyone.